When we consider answering the question: “Why so many single African American women?” We have to be prepared to go deep into the soul of the black woman. This means that you have to be willing to understand we as the female gender thrive on the power of love. The problem is love and sex has been totally abused in meaning and behavior.
In writing the first part of this series, one of the readers put extra emphasis on sex being the major reason why there are so many single females today. I can join in agreeing that sexual activity plays a crucial part in this issue but I also feel it is important that it is understood why so much sexual activity.
First of all, large numbers of women have been sexually abused as children. And those who weren’t abused as children experienced some form of sexual abuse as adults. As a result, we have women who have gone through life internally damaged mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. The natural process of discernment and constructive reasoning has been compromised and lost. Intimacy has been identified as some form of retardation in choosing healthy involvement in relationships.
The saddest thing about this reality is that women are not aware they are not being their true and natural selves. If they had not been violated, they would think, feel, process information totally differently. You see, what happens is the real woman is buried deep inside of them and the abused woman decides what will be. This woman does not think logically in fact she does not think much at all. She responds to life because she knows her feelings do not matter, only the feelings for the man she will allow into her body.
An abused woman exists to meet the requirements of others. They are usually very successful because they have learned to wear many masks. You do not get her heart. She does not trust you. How can she trust you when the abusers are usually people she is supposed to trust, her father, neighbor, pastor, etc. She will let you do what you like to her. In fact abused women are some of your most freaky women. They learned how to please others in the most unnatural circumstances. That is one of the reasons why young girls turn on older males.
They grew up fast sexually and mentally in getting pleasures fulfilled even if they didn’t want to do it. Their fulfillment is in getting it done. Being sexually desired makes them feel special and their ability to deliver reinforces it.
Many abused women have children because they have learned this to be a safe way of being loved. Though the claim is a desire to be loved by a man, on the other hand deep down they do not feel it is possible. There is a tug of war going on that pushes them away from any possibilities of true intimacy.
Natural tendencies are developed early in life. People would be amazed how different they would be if they were brought up in a healthy environment. Molested women and men struggle daily wondering who he or she could have been if this experience had not happened to them. This makes them feel unworthy of true love. Yet, again, it is desired but practically hopeless.
Unconsciously, they exist with no conscious of knowing their true selves. Having sex because it was their first experience of intimacy and being desired. Relationships destroy them and the other person involved. Each departs with scares that the next person they meet must endure. The vicious cycle continues leaving people alienated from potential real love.
Sex---love, sex----love, the meaning is tarnished because no one knows what the other is saying.

I want to talk to the innocent people in the world-- those who have fallen victim to unjust actions and choices.  I want you to know whether you were raped, molested, robbed, caught in the midst of Katrina or any natural disasters, any victimization where something was taken from you and there was not anything you could do about it; you are still here representing a rare group of people greater than any injustice that takes place in this world. You are here because you have a spirit and a soul this world can not take or kill.  Like me, you represent the reality this world is not your home.  Our survival of victimization confirms we exist for greater reasons beyond this world of selfishness and evil.

Tonight, I just wanted to join you in spirit.  We have come such a long way being misunderstood and at times not accepted.  For many of us, we have to ask the question:  Who do we trust?  In asking that question, we only want to know how we get people to do the right thing to do right by us and let us be.  I asked a few friends and family members:  How do you get people to do the right thing?  Those who do right by others had no answers in getting people to do right.  They can only say their choices to do right are natural for them that anything else would be uncomfortable.  On the other hand, those who are self-centered and greedy told me they do what they have to do and usually at any price.  That included taking from others if necessary.  These people admitted the thoughts of guilt were always ignored because they did what they had to do.

This made me realize no matter how innocent a person is, there are people out there who simply do not have a conscious of other people’s right to be safe and free.  In my book LAST DAY OF VICTIMIZATION I reveal the reality of there always being a THEM and US.  By nature, some people are takers, selfish, deceiving and unjust.  I call them people born of the Cain seed.  Then there are those who are kind, considerate, trusting and giving.  They are those born of the Abel seed.  The Abel seed is out numbered by the Cain spirit by a huge margin.

In answering the question to whom do we trust, Christians will be the first to say trust no one but God.  This is indeed true but many who are quick to make this statement do not have this living in their hearts.  They will take from God’s people in a heartbeat to survive and enjoy their lives.  This is why trust is deteriorating from our lives.  People we should be able to trust have allowed their own needs to supersede doing right by others.  All Christians are not takers and deceivers; we do have some who allow God’s spirit to reign in their lives.  They are innocent people.

Tonight, I had to let innocent victims know there are so many of us who do not know how to exist in a world not trusting people, especially when by nature we should be able to trust.  This is vexation to the spirit.  See, we must remember something very important.  Anybody coming up against us and taking from us are not doing that.  They are coming up against God.  As long as we trust God, we can trust anybody that comes into our lives to either reveal the light of love and God or the reality of darkness.  No matter what people do, we can not be destroyed.  Our souls belong to God. 

My fellow victims know we are not victims in spirit in truth.  In fact we are so valuable to God; the self-centered evildoers seek to destroy us because by nature, they can’t know God.  That’s right the innocent people of the world are God’s people.  Whether it is acknowledged or not, this is a truth that can’t be denied.  Rest at night knowing you more than a victim, you are chosen by God.  Jesus was the greatest victim that ever lived.  Whose child was he?

MOLESTED ANGEL GET HER WINGS

As a survivor of molestation, I can honestly say there is a beautiful life after being molested. I remember watching "Woman Thou Art Loose" by TD Jakes. In the movie, the main character, a young female was raped by her mother’s boyfriend who took her virginity. Neither her mother or anybody in her life knew her inner suffering with this experience. That hidden anguish grew to self-destruction.

The movie bothered me from the standpoint that when a man of God counsels this young lady knowing her deep seated anger and offered her no answers and in the end no hope. This was a great devastation for me because the victim ends up shooting the victimizer at the altar in the House of God. People found this to be an excellent movie. I found it to be a preying on emotions and a means of an income dealing with a subject so complex and soul altering that to tamper with it with no resolve was unjust to molested victims needing help. Several years later, I still remember this disappointment.

With this in mind, I want victims, not only molested victims to know and understand there is hope and there are answers. We just have to discover our own path to God. I wrote a book, "LAST DAY OF VICTIMIZATION". This book reveals the soul of victimization and prepares victims and those who love and want to assist in the healing process answers and a real understanding why we are victims. Trust me if you really want to be delivered from your past, it can happen and it will if you consider the possibility it is because you are a child of God therefore you are a target for potential abuse.

Though many people would hate to admit, healing from molestation and many other forms of abuse takes time, lots of time. It is a shifting of gears from low to high with neutral sometimes making us think we are not progressing. I want molested angels all around the world to know you can and will accept your wings of freedom. When it happens you will know it. I remember accepting my wings. It happened in a way that never entered my mind. I owe it to my soul mate. I will ever be indebted to him.

Standing up for one’s feelings, needs and desires was difficult for me as a molested victim because that natural choosing was denied me for so many years of my life. I faced the world not acknowledging my true feelings that made me who I am. Instead, the needs, feelings and desires of the ones I loved had precedence over mines; but finally after much trust in God and allowing myself to rise out of my private abyss, I spoke from my soul and risk the chance of disappointing or even losing my soul mate. See in the past, I was hollered at or spanked if I expressed my true feelings. But my day of realizing God has brought me from a long way I spoke and received my Wings of Healing. Today, I can say: God will restore the years of the locusts. My past can no longer paralyze my presence. To be free is knowing you are AMAZING!

Sad to say, a psycho/sociopathic mentality rules this country.  In other words, America breeds molestation.  The growing alienation among people is making this a loveless society. People would rather have more stuff than more people to love.  As a child, it was apparent to me there was more going on in this world than what I was told.  I wanted to know why there were so many unhappy people and why would someone shoot John F. Kennedy in the head.  I knew whoever did this to him, that he or she did not love him.  I never physically touched this man but I loved him deeply.  Hearing his voice, I felt hope.  When people willfully hurt me, I felt it only revealed their hearts and it was something I needed to know.  For sure, I did not want to be like them.

That same mentality that killed President Kennedy is found in predators.  In America, they are found in all institutions determining our fate.  Molestation is a subtle form of victimization characterized by greed, superiority over others, selfishness, hatred, deceit, etc. Keep in mind when you are dealing with a human predator, you are dealing with a person who has no conscious of the life of their victims.  Their main concern can go anywhere from self-gratification to actual murder.  Their missions can be as simple as being a con artist, politician, employer, rapist, spouse etc.  Predators live to kill life be it mental, emotional, financial, spiritual, and physical.  It seems no one ever asks the question why he or she does not have control over their drive to act on the inner callings to rape and kill.  It is not considered that just maybe it could be a powerful force taking possession of their minds and subsequently their souls.

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against

the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

Ephesians 6:12

The possibility of considering unseen forces as the means to bringing these heart-wrenching experiences is seldom considered.  One afternoon I was watching the Dr. Phil Show. The guests on his show were dealing with molestation that had taken place with a grandfather with his son’s daughter.  When the grandfather said the devil made him do it, it provoked Dr. Phil.  He immediately told him he was lying and that he molested his granddaughter because he wanted to do it.  I wanted to tell Dr. Phil so badly this man was telling the truth.  He was allowing the evil forces of hell to control his nature.  Why?  I don’t know but sometimes it is because of the conditioning to survive in an environment dominated by molesting forces to take at any costs.

            Molestation always has a predator that uses mixed signals to achieve its goals.  The mental processing of molestation is successful through a psycho/sociopath mentality.  It does not have to have physical contact to take place.  Their trusting us is not required for the molester to move confidentially in their pursuit.  However, they have to assume we trust them.  They know it is not trust that causes a victim to comply.  It is Mixed Signal Syndrome.  All a predator needs from us is to fear them in some subtle way.   For instance, the fear my books would not be published reigned over me through both of my literary experiences.  With a child, the fear he or she may upset others and destroy their families paralyzes their ability to speak about it.

Molestation is a power move to obtain selfish gratification.  It is the most dehumanizing experience in America.

Deception and lies are mixed with many levels of truths to cause the mind not to establish certainty.  If certainty is established it is only temporary because what is given is a decoy to draw us in.  Molesters at times bargain with their prey.  If we keep quiet, we can live.

            America Breeds Molestation because the source that keeps it alive is evil.  As long as our world order is based on greed, lust, superiority, racism and hate, our children will never be safe and neither will the innocent people who have a conscious.

            Everywhere we turn in this country there is corruption and in that corruption is molestation.  Mixed Signal Syndrome shows up strictly for controlling our minds and lives. The sources being mentioned having MSS does not apply to all but do apply to many of the named sources.  There is not anything new about this information.  It is just sharing an American cocktail in a clear glass with more ice.

"We have staked the whole of all our political institutions upon the capacity of mankind for self-government, upon the capacity of each and all of us to govern ourselves, to control ourselves, to sustain ourselves according to the Ten Commandments of God."

James Madison, the fourth president, known as "The Father of Our Constitution"

Political Molestation

When politicians begin molesting people, they fill the media and our minds with mixed signals of promises of doing well for the whole and unveiling knowledge of the imperfections of their opponents until the day of election.  By the time people get to the polls, they are so filled with mixed signals they do not know for sure what is real.  Many voters are moved by their fears of the future and their livelihood.  Whoever calms their main fears is the one selected at the polls. What we have gotten from our government is a direct result of MSS.  The government was established to serve the people but the people are serving the government as it controls our livelihood.  We are supposed to be a democracy and we swear by it even though there is no equality here for people because our political structure has been allowed to set up a foundation forcing classifications of people that ensure the rich will continue to become richer while the poor continue to be poorer.  Our right to vote was designed to inform our government what the majority desired and needed to remain a productive and thriving species.  The results of our voting never seem to show up in our democracy.  We still have people struggling for healthcare, education, equality, security etc.

It never seems to amaze me how the masses limit their power to a few.  The real power is in the people but because of MSS we allow ourselves to become numb to taking a stand and forcing changes for our best good.  We pay this foundation to rob us of future security.  Who would be the first to admit it?  We are an embarrassment to the world.  They know our government does not have our best interest at heart this is why the world does not understand why we are trying to make Iraq form a democracy as we have here in America. They do not see it making us prosperous. They see our MSS. We are no longer trusted by other countries.

America will pay for its tendency to enslave people by cheap labor.  This time, I believe the immigrants are going to accept this position for it prepares them for establishing a base of eventual control because they know the power of numbers and unity.  For this, I respect their wisdom to build.  Better is the poor that walketh in his uprightness, than he that is perverse in his ways, though he be rich.  Proverbs 28:6

"It cannot be emphasized too strongly or too often that this great nation was founded not by religionists but by Christians, not on religions but on the Gospel of Jesus Christ.”

Patrick Henry, that patriot and Founding Father of our country

Looking back over my life, I can’t help but to think of the only father I ever knew. He was a man so loved by the women and his family. He was highly respected by everyone. He had a natural charm that would make you want to be around him especially when he would speak. His voice would make you want to listen to every word he spoke. With that voice, he had intelligence and wisdom. But when you looked in his eyes, they always seem to be fighting back tears.

Often times my father and I would take my sons and go to his favorite park and talk for hours about life. The things he shared with me gave me a deeper understanding of life and people. One thing he always told me: “Don’t ever let anybody into the sanctuary of your mind because that is how people take possession of you.” I never forgot those words as I faced the world and began to see the truth about the nature of humanity. He was so right in so many ways. I only wished I understood what broke his heart so early in life. He didn’t trust anybody outside his family.

I learned later on in time, he was molested by his uncle and his family was known for incest among themselves. Also, his trust in women went down the drain when his bride to be, a minister’s daughter had taken all of his money he sent home while he was fighting in the war in Korea. He told me himself, he would never trust women.

But he always told me he loved me and he would do anything for me. He found no wrong in molesting me as a child. In fact, he swore he could not help being in love with me. When I became a teenager, he approached me as a lover and I shook and cried so hard, he promised to never approach me again. That night just before midnight, my father was shot in the back and paralyzed from the waist down. Of course, I felt it was my fault. If I had not made him speak those words, maybe he would not have been paralyzed.

My father died about twenty years later as a paraplegic. Even on his death bed, he found no wrong in loving me the way he did. In my heart, I always felt he couldn’t help who he was; anybody for that matter, who distorted the true meaning of love. Though I wished I had a father who knew how to be a father and to teach me those things in life a father should teach through the eyes of God, I found what my father gave me was a heart, burden and urgency to assist in the healing of the broken hearted and the misguided victims in the world.

Most victimizers are victims themselves. God made it plain to me to love all His children and to not judge them for their lack of love and understanding of what is best. But instead, plant seeds that will eventually choke the weeds that vex the spirit of freedom. To this day, I love my father and wished he could have experienced the understanding of parenthood through the eyes of God. In his absence, I do the will of God.

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